The Thursday Writers

Fighting The Stigma.

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The Thursday writers meet weekly in a public library. We collect twenty minute prompts, mostly one sentence long, draw a prompt at random, then write furiously and read our work to the group. Sharing writing information such as workshops, books, and readings we've been to have kept us current on what's happening in our neighbourhood. Our focus as writers has grown and now this new venture with the Island Woman Magazine is very exciting. We plan on a once monthly submission, rotating writers throughout the year. We are having lots of writing fun!

Adele was called into the Principal’s office to discuss her twelfth grade son. She was not surprised. He had been in two fights and had been acting strange. She supposed he would be expelled if his behavior did not improve. Deep down Adele feared there was another problem, but she chose not to acknowledge it. After all, he was just a teenager, sometimes teenagers had problems.

The meeting went badly. They discussed the fighting. Adele defended her son. Why blame him for everything, did he start it? The Principal appeared to be trying to get something else across, she did not want to hear it. She was not ready for the truth. She went home with a warning he would be expelled if his behavior did not improve. Why couldn’t he tell her outright he might be mentally ill? Afraid of a lawsuit ,or at a loss for words? After he was expelled, a doctor diagnosed him with Paranoid Schizophrenia.

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Living with a Schizophrenic is difficult. They can be uncooperative, paranoid, extremely manipulative, unwashed, self-centered, and emotionally detached. Inside they are very afraid. Perhaps the healthy part of their brain is still there, locked inside, surfacing briefly at times, and disappearing. I believe some part of them is watching, waiting for a release from their wretched existence of self-loathing, loneliness, despairing, hearing voices, hallucinations, not knowing at times if the person talking to them is real or imagined. As with any chronic illness, it wears the family down with worry and helplessness. As a caregiver, be kind. Never be physically or verbally abusive. Set boundaries. Above all, look

after your own well-being first. Do not be ashamed to talk about it. They desperately need your love and support.


Barbara Smith is a member of the Thursday Writing group. This is an account of her experiences.


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  1. It is important for teachers, counsellors, parents, and children (age appropriate) to read your article. No matter how baffling mental illness may be to some, everyone needs to know, and understand. Elaine Spira

  2. Great article/story Barbara. Bravely spoken. Parents needs more resources and earlier interventions so their children can be successful in both school and life.

    Chris Beryl

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