This is such a special time of the year, wouldn’t you agree? I love how the light looks and feels in the middle of summer. We have had one of the hottest summers on record and the weather couldn’t be better here in Victoria. It’s a time for sitting in the grass, watching the clouds go by and finding the hidden shapes within.

My mother would say it’s the best time of the year for wishing on dandelion seeds. Have you ever done this? Pick a stem of dandelion with all the seeds still attached. Try not to knock any of them off as you bring the stem up to your face. Take a deep breath in, thinking of a wish you want to come true. Then blow the seeds off the stem with your exhale, sending the seeds floating away, carrying your wish with them.

Now try this exercise. Think of that wish you just gave to the dandelion seeds. Say it out loud. “I wish I had a pony”. Feel the wish for a moment. Then change the word wish to want. Say it out loud now. “I want a pony.”

Can you feel the difference? And what is the first thing that comes into your mind about wanting the pony? …”How can I have a pony?” You see, the wishing is passive while the wanting is active and immediately generates in your mind the need to know how the want can be accomplished.

You see, a wish is only as good as the action you are willing to take to fulfill it once the wish has been stated. In and of itself, the statement of the wish reminds you of what you think isn’t possible for yourself. It represents the limits you place on yourself. It is full of expectations and in that, it is quite self-limiting. The moment you make a wish you have already decided you can’t do it.

The want or desire for something is much more powerful. Feel the wish and then move beyond it into the desire for the outcome you are projecting into the future with the wishing. Turn your wish into a want.

Now move into the creating of the want, the actions required to reach the goal. Sit with the question “How can I make it work?” Consider the question from a place of curiosity. Consider the question from the perspective of what is possible, before you consider it from the place of what is impossible. The moment you answer your fears and anxieties they are no longer fears; they become your allies.

Act on them instead of squashing them. It’s a brilliant system; you just haven’t been taught how to navigate this way of thinking. When the same questions keep coming up, you are meant to pay attention. When the same fears and doubts come up, they are there for a reason – answer them! And then you have your solution.

Most people think that it is the questions that are preventing them from realizing their dreams and desires. Build the bridge in the way in which you answer your own questions or the questions of others. The questions have value; they are being asked for a reason. Change your relationship with the questions. Invite the questions and then answer them. It changes everything and opens you to the possibilities that the answers can provide.

Sit with the questions. Give them an answer. The questions are important. It is not the questions that are holding you back; they are waiting to be answered. Can you feel how different that energy is now? When you go into these questions and get angry with yourself for asking them, as if the questions reflect some failing in yourself, you stop the flow of creative thinking. Asking “How can I do this?” or “Who am I to climb that mountain, sail that sea or create that dream?” doesn’t represent a failure; these are creative questions waiting for you to answer them.

Think about how you can climb the mountain. What practical things do you need to do, have in place or overcome, to climb the mountain? The only reason you don’t know something is that you aren’t ready to know it. That’s all it is. It takes the pressure off. Let the questions come into your mind and answer them.

So take some time out this summer to make your want list. The sky’s the limit and I’d love to hear what shows up for you!

PS. You can still blow the dandelion seeds!

Megan Edge
Psy-chick Healing Studio
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