I had a situation occur within the last couple of weeks that solidified my discomfort over computer or technology-based connections. Facebook, e-mail and texting have become the new way of creating community in many facets of society. Don’t get me wrong, I have engaged fully in this. Isn’t it so easy to just send a quick text or email? To join a group on Facebook? The lure of the smart phone and computer is hard to escape and yet we are losing core, fundamental abilities to really “connect”. I remember spending hours on the phone with friends, boyfriends, family, etc in the 80’s and 90’s. There were always plans made to get together for events, shopping or meals. Rarely was there a misunderstanding around communication as you had the person on the phone or were seeing their face.

 How many of us have had gross miscommunication via text, email or Facebook messenger? Personally, I have had many. Emotions, feelings or sentiments cannot be conveyed accurately and often things can be misconstrued. This week I had the realization that joining internet groups or interacting in that way no longer works for me. What I desire is community and connection that is established by physically meeting people and having mutual experiences together. The organic, unfolding of events and connections – I miss going to parties or dinners that friends held and meeting people in that old fashioned way.

 My experiences lately are lovely people trying to host events via the internet and having people express an interest, only to cancel at the last minute. Technology is wonderful for some aspects of life, but it should never be a replacement for human connection. In my experience, technology is also a way to disconnect from true connection. Isn’t it easy to just not show up at an event or gathering you committed to via internet? Or to cancel via text or email? We dishonor ourselves and the ones we care about by engaging in this (and I am guilty as charged). Moving forward, I will be picking up the phone or meeting with my friends in person to establish connection.

 In nature, there are plants that are true companions to other plants. They work together and communicate through root systems. Roman chamomile essential oil (Anthemis nobilis / Chamaemelum nobile) brings a sense of calm, dispels loneliness and encourages community. I often plant this in my vegetable garden to support the rest of my plants and to attract bees for pollination. Davana essential oil (Artemisia pallens) is found in companionship among the sandalwood trees in India. This essential oil is an anti-viral and combats viral attacks and strengthens the immune system. A true friend…

Connection Aromatic Mist

Combine the following in a spray bottle:

• 30mls distilled water
•  ¼ tsp of surfactant (polysorbate 20 derived from coconut oil)
• 2 drops of davana essential oil (Artemisia pallens)
• 10 drops of roman chamomile essential oil (Anthemis nobilis / Chamaemelum nobile)

Shake well before using. Please note: Davana essential oil is very high in ketones. Avoid use with small children, elders, epileptics, pregnant and/or nursing women. Always consult a certified or registered aromatherapist before creating blends for yourself or others.

Casey Mulcaster
Amarna Holistic Centre
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